Sin and Selfishness

I recently received a phone call from a young married person whose spouse was leaving the marriage because they were involved in an extramarital relationship. I had the opportunity to reach out to the one “fleeing” and I was reminded through our conversation of the true nature of infidelity: selfishness. When we make the decision to cheat, what we are basically saying to God and to our spouse is, "I really do not care how this affects you nor hurts you. I’m going to do what I want to do and I could care less about you and your feelings." So, in essence, we are worshiping self! We choose our ways over God's ways.

The excuses I hear over and over again for sin all revolve around the god of self. I am deeply concerned for the body of Christ because we have become so selfish. To think that we can do whatever pleases us and disregard God’s commands is absurd! Have we lost all fear of the Lord? The word says not to fear man, but to fear The One who after the body dies, has the power to cast the soul to hell.(see Luke 12:5 )

Over and over again the New Testament tells how there is no place in heaven for the sexually immoral. (see Galatians 5:19-21) Now, I certainly don’t believe that if one has committed sexual sin they are banned from eternal life in heaven. Nor do I believe that if you continue to stumble in sexual sin that you are doomed for eternal damnation. I believe that if we are truly in Christ we cannot continue on down a path of self-destruction for long because the Bible teaches that those who are in Christ cannot go on sinning. Having said that, I do believe God requires us to fight against sexual sin with every last breath is us! Are we fleeing from extramarital relationships or are we continuing on in them without a care in the world how it will affect our spouses and children?
I had one woman tell me she absolutely believes there is no way she would ever get caught in her adulterous affair! How scary to think we have become so arrogant in our ways that we think we have the power to keep our sin hidden. Let me say this from experience: the enemy is after your darkest secrets! He finds complete pleasure in exposing your sin publically. The word says he runs to the throne day and night telling on the saints! If you think your secret is safe, think again! As I heard Beth Moore once state at a women’s conference,” Satan comes to tempt you, trap you, and tell on you!” He is after whatever darkness you are presently walking in.

I pray that God would have mercy upon us and grant us another day to repent. May today be the day that we turn from our wicked, selfish ways and return to the Lord while we still have time!